People Deal with Death differently.
I have been exposed to a lot of death in the earlier years of my life. Between 1989-1998 I had lost really close friends of mine. There deaths all came suddenly. Some from cars accidents, Some motorcycle, and some from drugs. I had lost friends after 1998 but I learned to deal with those deaths differently.
When people die we can morn their deaths in two ways.
In a positive way and a negative way.
From my experience most people deal in a negative way. These people I saw use the deaths as an excuse to fail in their own lives. Most of them turned to drugs. I heard them repeatedly use the excuse of their friends death as the reason that they are using drugs. How silly does that sound? It sounded pretty silly to me. Did using drugs bring them back?
I saw very few take that experience and turn it into a positive. In reality that is what the smart thing to do is. Making the choice to take the memories of a person you love and creating a positive effect in your life. You can take you hurt , pain and the memory and flip it into something wonderful. Use their memory as a driving force to your success.
You can do that with every challenge that is thrown your way. Death like most challenges are unexpected. So remember even when it comes to death.
Respond instead of reacting to the situation.