Why do people feel so obligated to please others and make themselves unhappy. I see this happening everyday. People complain all the time about the things they do for other people. I wish people would realize
Please Yourself … Don’t Feel You Have To Please Others
For years I did things in my life to make other people happy. I went to family functions to make my mother happy. Called my grandmothers to please my parents. I didn’t enjoy what I was doing. I did it out of family obligation. Most people think that you have a family obligation you have to fulfill.
I have learned that the only obligation I have is with myself . I am obligated to take care of myself. To make sure I keep all toxic things and people out of my life. That includes family. I am grateful to my parents for the birth of my life. I have excepted my life experiences with them as learning tools for my future. But at no time at this point in my life do I think I need to keep them in my life if it brings me down.
The fact in the matter is I haven’t spoke to my father since September 2007. As a result I had room for the growth I was looking for. I truly believe I couldn’t have achieved the things in the past year that I have if I had him in my life. It is sad to think but it is true. People can hold you back from your true potential. You’d never realize it because of you feeling obligated and never letting go. I would love to be able to share in my growth with my father. If I ever went back into a relationship with him it would be under my terms. That is how I feel about any of the relationships I have let go of.
When decieding to focus on personal growth, not everybody is supportive. They claim they are. When it comes down to it they treat you as if you are the same person. They haven’t changed how they treat you. It makes it hard to be around them because you aren’t the same person. You don’t care to be treated in that manner anymore. Don’t feel bad to let go of them. If they want to keep you in their life they will have no choice but to change the way they treat you.
Life is a choice . We get to choose every little aspect of it. From your desired wealth , to your desired weight. What do you choose for yourself ?
I choose Freedom . With the Beyond Freedom Program .