I think people don’t realized that to sugar coat everything is very dangerous. Most people ask for advise and expect the person to tell them exactly what they want to hear. When the truth of the matter is they are to sensitive to hear the truth. When they are presented with what they need to hear instead of what they want to hear they feel like they are being attacked.
What You Need to Hear & What You Want to Hear
Every time I am asked advise about something I am as honest as possible. Sometimes honesty is taken as cruelty. That is never where is comes from. It is usually the person that can’t handle the facts about a given situation. I keep a straight level in my voice when telling someone what they NEED to hear. That way they can’t say I was attacking them. I never want to come off that way or they will never hear what needs to be heard.
When hearing the things you don’t want to hear you need to step out of yourself. It is a growing process when needing to hear the truth. Even bigger step to except it. We all would like life to be painted as a pretty picture . It just doesn’t always work out that way. Be more excepting of what you need to hear and grow from it. You WILL be grateful in the end.